Posts Tagged ‘values clarification stories’

You Don’t Always Have to Share

Tuesday, February 16th, 2016

The boys were sitting around the kitchen table at Willie’s house, talking about always having to share.

shareGrandpa Dooley was sitting in a chair, not far from the table, pretending to read the paper. Actually he was listening in on the boys conversation.  From what they were saying, he could tell they really didn’t like having to share all the time.

Grandpa Dooley wondered to himself as he listened to them. Should he speak up? Don’t  they realize, they have choices? Don’t they know that sometimes it’s okay not to share?

“Hey boys,” said Grandpa Dooley as he got up and walked over to the table , “I can’t help overhearing what you are talking about and I just want to say that you don’t always have to share. Sometimes its okay not to share. Sometimes it’s not even a good idea to share. Sometimes it is even wrong to share.”

The boys all stared at Grandpa Dooley as if he had three heads! Hector spoke for all the boys when he said, “Tell us when it is okay not to share. I’d really like to know when I don’t have to share!”

Grandpa smiled and said,”When your parents or a teacher or  someone else in authority tell you to share…well, it is usually a good idea to do it. But, if a stranger or another kid says you have to share, well, no you don’t. It is up to you if you want to share with a friend or someone you know from school or the recreation center or the park. You have the choice to share or not to share. You just need to ask yourself a few questions:

  • How well do I know this person?
  • Do I want to share?
  • Does this person really need me to share? Is it a special circumstance, say, they don’t have any snack and they are hungry?
  • How will I feel if I don’t share?

The boys thought for awhile. Then Willie asked, “Okay, what about when it is not a good idea to share?”

Grandpa Dooley answered,”When what you would share could hurt the person. For instance, little kids shouldn’t eat peanuts. It could make them sick. So, it wouldn’t be a good idea to share peanuts with your little brother or sister. “

The boys nodded, that made sense. Then Arthur J asked, “When is it wrong to share?”

“That’s an easy one,” said Grandpa Dooley. “Here are a few examples:

  • We are not supposed to share homework answers because that would be cheating.
  • We shouldn’t share licks on the same ice cream pop or swigs from the same soda bottle because that’s how you spread germs.

So you see boys, you don’t always have to share. But, you do have to be ready to make a choice when you are asked to share.”

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Cheating

Monday, February 1st, 2016

cheatingYundi caught up with Bobby on the walk to school. By the look on Bobby’s face, Yundi could tell there was something wrong. “What’s wrong Bobby,” asked Yundi.

Bobby answered, “I didn’t study for the math test today and now I will probably fail.”

Yundi asked Bobby why he didn’t study. “Well,” said Bobby, “There was a show I wanted to see and when it was over my mom said it was time for bed.”

Yundi just looked at Bobby and shook his head.”What are you going to do?”

Bobby thought a minute, then said, “I know, I sit next to you. I’ll just copy your answers if I can’t do the problems.

Yundi got read in the face and said, “That’s cheating!”

Bobby said,”No it’s not. You’re just helping me out. You’re my friend aren’t you?”

Yundi sputtered, “Yeah, I’m your friend, but friends don’t ask friends to help them with cheating on a test. Besides, why should I let you take my answers? I studied hard and didn’t get to watch any TV last night so I could do well on this test. Now I’m supposed to let you cheat by taking my answers…no fair, Bobby. No fair!”

Bobby got all upset and said, “What am I going to do? if I fail, my mom will make me stay in for a week and I won’t get to go to the skating party on Saturday.”

Yundi was so mad at Bobby for asking him to help him with cheating on the test that he had no sympathy for Bobby. He said, “You should have thought about that last night!”

Bobby said,”You can’t stop me. I sit next to you. When Miss Pat isn’t looking, I’ll just peak at your paper.”cheating

Yundi was so mad! “You do and I’ll raise my hand and tell Miss Pat.”

“You wouldn’t,” said Bobby. “Oh yes I would,” said Yundi. Then Yundi walked away from Bobby and walked the rest of the way to school by himself.

Questions:

Was Bobby being fair to Yundi? Was Yundi being a friend to Bobby?

Would you ever ask a friend to help you with cheating on a test? Would you ask a friend to let you copy his or her homework?

Is copying someone’s homework cheating?

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